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Los niños perdidos: cómo hemos expulsado de la sociedad a una generación de hombres jóvenes

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Cada poco nos insisten con titulares sobre la famosa brecha de género. Luego, de forma secundaria, hay noticias que salen como anécdotas, pero que en realidad siguen un patrón común.

  • Tiroteos en escuelas, robos, violencia, crímenes de todo tipo
  • Fracaso escolar
  • Trabajos poco cualificados e ingresos decrecientes
  • Adicciones y evasión del mundo real
  • Suicidios

El patrón es que todo esto está protagonizado por hombres jóvenes mal integrados en nuestra sociedad.

¿Qué está pasando con nuestros hombres jóvenes? ¿Qué sociedad estamos creando en la que muchos de ellos no encajan? En la loable búsqueda de la igualdad de oportunidades para las mujeres ¿estamos dañando a los hombres?

Recientemente encontré un estudio estremecedor que recomiendo leer con atención: «The lost boys: how a generation of young men fell behind women on pay. A sobering report details their struggles before primary school even begins, a dearth of role models and the decline of blue-collar jobs.» Está hecho en UK, pero muchas de las tendencias también son válidas en cierta medida aquí.

Algunas conclusiones y datos escalofriantes:

  • Los hombres jóvenes están fracasando en una medida desproporcionada en el sistema escolar. 75% de los expulsados por el sistema escolar (en el que curiosamente las mujeres predominan enormemente) son varones y en las universidades británicas hay 3 mujeres por cada 2 hombres.
  • También hay una caída significativa en la proporción de hombres que encuentran trabajos cualificados y por lo tanto en sus salarios. Eso hace que tengan que les cueste más tiempo independizarse.
  • Ellos protagonizan y sufren mayormente la marginalidad, el crimen (90% de las víctimas de homicidio), la cárcel (96% de los reclusos) y el suicidio (tres veces y media más probable que las mujeres).
  • La cultura, el sistema educativo y los medios de comunicación muestran lo masculino bajo una perspectiva negativa: toxicidad, violencia, ridiculización de los valores y personajes tradicionalmente masculinos, etc.
  • Los hogares sin una figura paterna de referencia (1/5 de las familias británicas) hacen mucho más probable todos los síntomas mencionados. 76% de los niños en custodia tienen un padre ausente.

También recomiendo una interesante conversación entre Peterson y un experto en este tema, Warren Farrell. Si tienes hijos o sobrinos varones, te interesará.

The Painful Reality Of Unteachable Lessons

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The other day I was frustrated with my adolescent son for making the same mistakes time and time again, even when warned and knowing the consequences. But he is not the only one. We all resist learning sometimes, even when it is obvious to everybody else.

Then I had a serendipitious finding: Chris Williamson discusses why we’re wired to learn our lessons the hard way.

A few quotes:

  • Oscar Wilde wrote «Experience is the hardest kind of teacher. It gives you the test first and the lesson afterward.»
  • «A man makes mistakes, a smart man learns from his mistakes, a brilliant man leans from other’s mistakes.»
  • «When we find the same kind of problem time and time again, it means that life is trying to teach us something that we haven’t learned.»

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But there’s much more! Chris is a curious person and has learnt a thing or two in 900 episodes interviewing very intelligent people. Here’s some food for thought.

00:00 Unteachable Lessons

07:37 Reverse Charisma

14:52 Don’t Trade Your Lifestyle for Money

18:33 Deliberate De-Optimisation

24:01 From Operator Guy to Idea Guy

33:38 What Gays & Lesbians Think of Bisexuals

37:30 The Birth Order Effect

39:25 We Are What We Pretend to Be

45:56 How to Not Be Needy

49:53 Find Someone You Feel Safe Being a Burden To

52:11 5 Questions to Ask Yourself in a Relationship

55:22 How to Make Marriage an Easy Guess

56:07 Thoughts on the Black Pill Community

Everything You Know About Overpopulation Is Wrong | Stephen Shaw

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Everyday the fearmongers in the infoxication media scare us with the last crisis and emergency, until it goes out of fashion. Then they sell you the next thing to be scared of. Of course, they don’t do it so that you make the best decisions, but to promote the interests of those who pay them.

In fact, it can all be considered a case of obfuscation. Instead of hiding the truth, they hide among so much noise and so much banal information that you are not able to focus on the key issues and challenges for our civilization. Like slow extinction.

Many people believe the world is becoming overpopulated…the reality will shock you.

In this speech, Stephen Shaw explains how rapidly declining birth rates are putting many countries in danger of disappearing within a few generations.

Reversing the narratives around children and population growth is critical for the sake of our civilisations. It will help us design the changes that our society needs to survive, instead of the useless snakeoil remedies that our politicians and media sell to us.

They say «You’ll have nothing and you’ll be happy», or «You won’t have a good job, your own house nor children but you can have cats instead.» They also defend that making it difficult for our young couples to create a family and instead importing unskilled uncivilized people is the solution to all our problems.

Let’s not sacrifice our offspring for our material confort. Go make a baby! 😉 Or encourage others to do so before it’s too late.

00:00 – Haunted by the Future

00:19 – The Missing Conversation on Parenthood

01:36 – The Silent Crisis of Low Birth Rates

02:52 – Debunking Overpopulation Fears

04:24 – The Mathematics of Population Decline

06:18 – The Economic and Social Impact

09:20 – The Rise of Childlessness

12:42 – The Challenge of Reversing the Trend

The broken window fallacy, Troyan horse ideas, and how to avoid making terrible economic decisions

Last month I talked about goals and incentives (La importancia de los incentivos, y cómo el 99% de la gente (incluidos los directivos) no los entiende) and about how people are blind to the failure of their projects (La teoría del caballo muerto o cómo nos negamos a afrontar los problemas). Following those ideas, today I want to talk about the economic myopia of most people.

I don’t know if it is because I studied some economy or because of my experience in many organizations, but I can spot bad economic ideas from a mile, even if they are disguised in good intentions. But I don’t think I’m a genius. What surprises me is how most people accept or buy into «Troyan horse ideas«: sugar-candy proposals that will bring terrible results.

  • Why do politicians always seem to create more economic problems when they intervene to «solve» the previous ones?
  • Why can’t people understand that what seem like good ideas in the short term have bad consequences?
  • Why do we insist in the same recipes that sound attractive but have proven wrong several times in history?
  • Why don’t we understand that everything has pros and cons, and that there are no solutions, only compromises?

There many examples, like printing money, fixing prices, raising taxes and tariffs, taking money from people who work to give it to those who create nothing, doing a bad job for a customer, being dishonest, eating too much and exercicing too little, spending more than you earn, etc.

In this video we learn about the broken window fallacy and how it can help us improve our economic understanding of the world.

Some key questions that you need to ask every time you are proposed an idea:

  • What’s been broken? Why? (Root causes, not symthoms) Have we understood how the problem was created?
  • Is your proposal better or worse than the problem? Is it better or worse than other proposals? What other solutions have worked / not worked in the past? What are the pros and cons of each of them? Are you solving the problem provisionally and making it worse in the long term? What are the evident and not so evident risks?
  • How is this solution going to solve the problem? How are you going to measure its success? Will you change it if it doesn’t work or is counter productive?
  • At what cost? What are the drawbacks? What wealth is the proposal going to destroy? Will it create more problems somewhere else?
  • Who’s paying and who’s benefiting from it? Is it overall good for the society? Even so, is it fair and ethical? Does it break individual rights?
  • Is this idea yours or are you repeating someone else’s without any criticism? Do you have an emotional attachment? What are your biases and blind spots?
  • Are you risking something if your solution doesn’t work? Do you have a personal interest in it? Who will win or lose something if it works and if it doesn’t?

Next time you have or are proposed a «great idea», please use these questions to help other people think rationally.

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«The tide is turning!» – Konstantin Kisin’s HILARIOUS speech to world leaders

If you don’t know Konstantin Kisin, he is a comedian but also a speaker who defends free speech, western civilization and values. He knows what he is talking about because his family escaped from the Soviet Union.

He is a Sunday Times bestselling author, satirist, social commentator, and creator and co-host of free speech podcast TRIGGERnometry. In 2022, he published An Immigrant’s Love Letter to the West.

I came across this speech at ARC, and I found it wonderful both in content and in the way he delivers it. Enjoy it! Besides, we can all learn from his public speaking skills, second to none.

00:00 Introduction & Personal Reflections

00:21 Cultural Change & Turning Tides

02:04 Free Speech & The Fear of Open Debate

03:08 Challenges in the West: Crime, Identity, & Leadership

06:09 The Danger of Forgetting Our Foundations

09:50 Responsibility, Innovation & The Fight for the Future

12:38 Winning the Argument on Identity & Progress

14:11 A Call to Action & Final Reflections

1 año de Milei. ¿Cómo va Argentina?

Toda mi vida adulta he defendido abiertamente las ideas de la libertad en lo personal y en lo profesional, como explico en la página de nuestros valores. Por eso, desde hace un año, Argentina ha atraído mi curiosidad y mi esperanza.

Es un laboratorio experimental que lleva décadas mostrando qué pasa cuando las ideologías colectivistas aplastan al individuo con excusas bienintencionadas. Es un aviso para los países occidentales y sus gobiernos cada vez más intervencionistas. Y en el último año, una excepción y un ejemplo de cómo pasar de un país en quiebra a otro con aún muchos problemas, pero saneado y en franca mejoría.

Donde los políticos de uno u otro color han regulado, prohibido, intervenido, aumentado impuestos, etc., Milei ha llevado a cabo un programa impopular y duro, pero con unos resultados impresionantes. El economista Ramón Rallo analiza los principales resultados de este año, ya que no salen mucho en las noticias.

Además, aquí te dejo una entrevista, para que puedas hacerte tu propia opinión sobre la persona y el profesional, más allá del personaje histriónico que él mostró como político y del villano fascista y enloquecido que muestran la gran mayoría de los medios de infoxicación.

¡Un abrazo y los mejores deseos para nuestros hermanos argentinos! Cuando acabéis de recuperar el país, podéis mandarnos a Milei, que aquí hace mucha falta. 😉

Séneca y la brevedad de la vida. Regalo para los lectores del blog.

Leer a los clásicos es algo para lo que parece que nunca hay tiempo. ¡Estamos todos tan ocupados! Pero Séneca opinaba que la vida no es corta ni nos falta tiempo, el problema es cómo lo usamos… o malgastamos.

Recientemente leí su libro «De la brevedad de la vida«, aprovechando viajes y momentos tontos en los que podría estar atontándome con redes sociales.

Hoy os lo recomiendo vivamente. Merece la pena el pequeño esfuerzo cognitivo de conversar con Séneca a través de dos milenios, darnos cuenta de lo poco que ha cambiado (y aprendido) el ser humano, y recuperar una sabiduría que está de plena actualidad.

Aunque yo lo he leído en papel, como regalo para los lectores del blog, aquí os dejo una página para descargaros las obras de Séneca.

Si te interesa el estoicismo y cómo conectarlo con los líderes modernos, o prefieres otro libro que sintetiza muy bien esta corriente filosófica, te sugiero este otro post anterior: https://revitalent.com/cosasquepensar/estoicismo-para-lideres-modernos/

Y si quieres que te cuente el mito de Cronos, el Titán que devora a sus hijos, y su significado: El cruel mito de Cronos y la gestión del tiempo

Do you learn by pain or by light?

In this video, Orion Taraban discusses how people learn by walking the two paths: the path of light and the path of pain.

Most people learn most of their lessons on the path of pain, which is a kind of feedback that the models from which our behavior proceeds are not aligned with reality.

But, is it possible to attain wisdom without having to learn the hard way?

Fortunately, we can all learn to walk on the path of light by learning from the pain of others. This is how experience leads to wisdom.

Stop using this, it’s killing your conversations! Advice from a body language expert.

Another excellent interview at Diary Of A Ceo, regarding body language. Vanessa Van Edwards is the founder of ‘Science of People’, which gives people science-backed skills to improve communication and leadership. She is also the bestselling author of ‘Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People’ and ‘Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication’.

Here are some take-aways:

  • Gestures Over Words (00:00): Our brain is 12.5 times more likely to trust a person’s gestures over their words, as gestures are harder to fake.
  • Importance of Cues (00:27): Behavioral researcher Vanessa Van Edwards emphasizes that highly successful people understand the hidden language of cues (non-verbal communication) that boost both warmth and competence in social interactions.
  • Five Warmth Cues (01:16): For those who are perceived as intimidating or hard to talk to, using warmth cues like authentic smiling and tilting your head can help make you more approachable.
  • Contagion of Emotions (35:45): Being around high performers improves your performance, while being around low performers can decrease it by 30%, showing how emotions are contagious.
  • Body Language in Presentations (40:00): Effective speakers use gestures and different vocal tones to emphasize importance, numbers, or storytelling, which engages listeners more deeply.
  • Non-Verbal Bridge (37:55): Small, non-verbal gestures, such as a light tap or slight touch, can help build trust and create emotional connections in relationships.
  • The Power of Aggressively Liking People (22:35): The key to building connections is to make others feel liked first, which can lead them to like you back.
  • Avoiding Overused Questions (1:24:30): Asking «What do you do?» can be boring and put people on autopilot; instead, ask more personal, thought-provoking questions to foster genuine connections.
  • Imperfect Social Interactions (2:00:13): Making mistakes, like spilling something or being imperfect, can actually make you more relatable and create deeper bonds in social situations.
  • Social Strengths and Connection (2:31:32): Understanding and playing to your social strengths (whether storytelling, empathy, or humor) is key to creating more meaningful relationships and better interactions.

And this is an index of all the contents:

00:00 Intro

02:13 The Crucial Role of Cues for Success

03:45 I’m a Recovered Awkward Person

05:36 What’s an Ambivert

07:28 One Word Can Change the Way People Think

09:39 The Most Fundamental Skill to Invest In

12:41 The Resting B*tch Face Effect

16:01 Do Not Fake Smile!

18:29 The 97 Cues to Be Warm & Competent

21:44 The Formula to a Perfect Conversation

24:37 Science Reveals Why Some People Are Extremely Popular

28:34 Message People Telling Them This…

33:22 The Luck Experiment

35:05 Being Around Successful People Is Contagious

41:55 The Importance of Hand Gestures

43:38 Hand Tricks to Be Liked

54:15 The Scientific Formula to Be More Charismatic

56:47 The Danger Zone of Being Too Warm or Competent

58:45 The Power Cues

1:07:55 How to Spot a Liar

1:15:23 If You’ve Been Told You’re Intimidating, Do This

1:18:37 Don’t Let Anyone Use This With You

1:21:45 The 6 Questions to Connect With Someone

1:34:20 Leaning Too Much Towards Someone…

1:39:03 How to Greet Someone

1:49:42 How to Master Messaging

1:54:40 Personal Branding

1:59:01 Improve Your Dating Life With These Tips

2:04:27 Body Language and Brain Connection

2:06:33 Are You Awkward? Watch This

2:10:14 How to Get Someone to Approach You

2:15:08 How to Make Friends as an Adult

2:18:57 AirPods Are Killing Friendships

2:22:16 Ads

2:24:08 How to Spot a Liar

2:30:05 Toxic Relationships

2:32:34 How to Start a Conversation With a Stranger

2:37:00 How to Get Started With All This Knowledge

Belleza y sentido en Navidad (no una felicitación superficial e impersonal)

Estas fechas todos estamos bombardeados de consumismo, publicidad y empachos absurdos. También de felicitaciones protocolarias, superficiales, acartonadas, impersonales, fingidas, muchas de ellas con buena intención pero poca alma, que borramos sin siquiera leer. Siendo sincero, es imposible felicitar personalmente a cada amigo y conocido.

Por eso, cada año me gusta regalar algo distinto, que conecte con el significado profundo de estas fiestas (renovación, belleza, familia, reencuentro, amor, reposo, ilusión, esperanza, etc.).

Para todos los lectores del blog y especialmente para amigos y clientes, quiero compartir una canción. Me llamó la atención por ser muy bella en la letra, la música, la interpretación y el entorno. Regálate 5 minutos para saborearla. Espero sinceramente que la disfrutes y que reconectes con todo lo bello e importante en la vida. Un fuerte abrazo de corazón.

Tal vez también te puedan gustar otros posts anteriores:

Las temibles cenas y eventos de empresa (con mucho humor)

Carta de Reyes Humagos, de un Director de RRHH desesperado

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