If there’s an issue so badly understood it is the boy crisis. We don’t understand why young men are leaving school, comit violent crimes and suicide, and seem not to fit into our society. Clue: the explanation is not heteropatriarchy, access to guns, or videogames.
This is an eye-opening conversation between Jordan Peterson and Warren Farrell. They share scientific research (hidden by the mainstream) to understand what’s happening and give some ideas to deal with it.
This is not a conversation only for misfit young males. You can’t miss it if you have a son, daughter or husband, or simply care about humanity.
—Chapters—
[0:00] Intro
[2:51] The Boy Crisis & Mass Shootings
[8:57] A Lack of Father Figures
[9:29] Differences Between Mothers, Fathers, & Boundary Enforcement
[13:42] Why Family Dinners Matter
[15:43] Frans de Waal, Chimp Behavior, & the Human Moral Ethos
[18:45] Why Involved Fathers Matter
[22:59] Psychology of School Shooters
[25:41] Dr. Farrell’s Similarities with the Uvalde Shooter
[33:25] Effects of ‘Toxic Masculinity’ & ‘Male Privilege’ on Young Men
[37:03] Male Competence vs. Male Power Compulsion
[42:15] Saying ‘No’ & Expecting Girls to Share Rejection-Risks
[44:49] Crumb & Psychopathological Fantasies
[47:00] Conflicting Emotions & Motivations
[49:22] “A Billion Wicked Thoughts”
[53:58] “When only one sex wins, both lose”
[54:12] On Feminism
[57:36] Empathy, Facades, & Male Vulnerability
[1:03:51] Why Play Matters
[1:12:33] Teasing, Bullying, & Resilience
[1:17:32] Rewarding Dads
[1:20:36] Appreciation Training
[1:24:07] Character Development
[1:29:07] Status, Negotiation, & Reconciliation
[1:33:34] Opponent Processing & Handling Criticism
[1:43:46] Words for Anyone Harboring Vengeful Fantasies
[1:46:51] Setting Families Up for Success
